Let Not Man Separate - The Wedding of Kyle Saville and Alyx Schmitz

Let Not Man Separate

The Marriage of Kyle Saville and Alyx Schmitz – 5/9/2026

Matthew 19:4-6

Rev. Dr. Christopher W. Brademeyer

Christ is risen! He is risen indeed! Alleluia!

That portion from God’s holy Word for consideration this afternoon is our lesson from the holy Gospel according to St. Matthew in the nineteenth chapter with special emphasis on verse six which reads as follows:

“So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”[1]

Thus far the Scriptures.

In the Name of the Father and of the + Son and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.

Dearly beloved in Christ, and especially Kyle and Alyx, today is a day of great joy. God has gathered us together to witness and rejoice in the union that He Himself has instituted and blessed. Marriage is not merely a human arrangement, nor simply a legal contract or emotional partnership. Marriage is God’s design. It is His gift to mankind from the very beginning.

Our Lord Jesus says in Matthew 19: “Have you not read that He who created them

from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?”

Notice that Jesus points back to the fabric of creation itself. Before sin entered the world, before suffering and death, before all the brokenness we now experience, God established marriage. It belongs to Him. He created it. He defines it. And because He designed it, He also knows its purpose.

Marriage is the union of one man and one woman. Not because society invented it that way, but because God established it. Husband and wife are joined together as complements to one another, distinct yet united, each serving the other according to the callings God has given. This is why Scripture says the two become one flesh. Your lives are now joined together by God Himself.

And this union is meant to be lifelong. Jesus says, “What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” The vows you make today are not temporary promises based on changing emotions or circumstances. They are solemn vows made before God and these witnesses. Today you are promising faithfulness not merely when life is easy, but also when it becomes difficult.

And it will become difficult.

Marriage is one of God’s greatest earthly gifts, but because sinners are involved, it also involves hardship. There will be frustrations, disappointments, and days when love feels less like romance and more like sacrifice. There will be moments when pride, selfishness, impatience, or anger threaten to divide what God has joined together.

That is why you must remember your vows. Not only on this joyful day, but especially on the hard days. Your marriage cannot survive merely on feelings, because feelings rise and fall. It must rest upon something firmer: the promises you make today and the God who stands behind them.

Remain faithful to one another. Guard your marriage. Protect it from bitterness, from resentment, from outside temptations, and from the lie that happiness is found somewhere else. Faithfulness is not merely avoiding adultery. It is daily choosing one another. It is forgiving one another. It is serving one another even when it is costly.

For marriage is also given for mutual companionship and service. God said in the beginning, “It is not good that the man should be alone.” Alyx, God has given Kyle to you as your husband. Kyle, God has given Alyx to you as your wife. You are now called to help and support one another through every season of life. In joy and sorrow, in prosperity and hardship, in strength and weakness, you belong to one another.

God also blesses marriage through the gift of children. Children are not burdens or interruptions to life, but gifts entrusted by God. And within marriage God also provides a holy and honorable place for the desires He created, protecting husband and wife from temptation and calling them to purity and faithfulness together.

But above all, Christian marriage is meant to reflect something even greater than itself. Scripture teaches that marriage points us to Christ and His Church. Jesus does not abandon His Bride. He does not walk away when His people fail Him. He remains faithful even unto death on the cross. He forgives. He restores. He loves sacrificially.

That is the pattern and strength for your marriage as well. Your love for one another will not be perfect. But Christ’s love for you is perfect. And so when you fail one another—and you will—return again to Christ for forgiveness, mercy, and strength. A marriage centered on Christ is not a marriage without struggles. It is a marriage where sinners continually return to the One who forgives sinners.

Alyx and Kyle, today God gives you to one another. Receive this gift with thanksgiving, humility, and faithfulness. Cling to one another. Pray together. Hear God’s Word together. Forgive one another quickly. And remember always that the Lord who joined you together today promises also to sustain you.

Christ is risen! He is risen indeed! Alleluia!

In the holy Name of + Jesus. Amen.

The peace of God that passes all understanding keep your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. Amen.

[1] Matthew 19:6 English Standard Version. All further quotations from the Holy Scriptures are from the ESV.